Tag: books

Bird by Bird

I finished reading Anne Lamott’s book, Bird by Bird – Some Intructions on Writing and Life, over the weekend. As a writer, it’s one of the most inspiring books I’ve read, next to Stephen King’s On Writing. Lamott covers everything, with wit and honesty, on the writing process from writer’s block to the jealousy we’re bound to feel when everyone else around us is getting published. I felt like she was writing specifically for me and helped me feel a little less crazy, or better, reassured me that all writer’s are crazy and I’ll fit right in with my “hideous conceit and low self esteem in equal measure.”

Lamott has so many gems in this book that I’ve practically underlined and earmarked every page. Whenever I tell people I’m writing a book I get a mixture of annoying responses and awe. More annoying than awe, but those that are impressed always say, “Wow, I wouldn’t know where to start.” The fact is, everyday when I sit down to write, I don’t know where to start. I loved this paragraph in her chapter titled, Shitty First Drafts:

Very few writers really know what they are doing until they’ve done it. Nor do they go about their business feeling dewy and thrilled. They do not type a few stiff warm-up sentences and then find themselves bounding along like huskies across the snow. One writer I know tells me that he sits down every morning and says to himself nicely, “It’s not like you don’t have a choice, because you do- you can either type or kill yourself.”

Or… rearrange your wardrobe, do some online shopping, break in your new shoes


summer reading

Barnes & Noble was having a sale online and I couldn’t help but order a bunch for $3.99 each. I got:

Imperial Bedrooms by Bret Easton Ellis

Armageddon in Retrospect by Kurt Vonnegut

The Girl Who Played With Fire by Stieg Larsson

Waiter Rant by Steve Dublanica

Bird by Bird by Anne Lamott

Have you guys read any of these?

i’m your biggest fan

I try to mix in some cultural activities in between the binge drinking. Wednesday evening I went to see one of my favorite authors, Sloane Crosley, at Barnes & Noble in Tribeca. It’s been said that some of the best authors are the ones you want to hang out with after reading their book. Crosley was definitely as cool and funny in person as she seemed in her first book of essays, I Was Told There’d Be Cake. I was laughing throughout the reading and indeed while she signed a copy of her new book, How Did You Get This Number, I told her that I was a huge fan and asked if she wanted to be friends. (I’ve got to stop approaching people this way. I am unaware that I am 28 years old, not 8).

Obviously she (politely) declined but luckily I’ve had enough experience with rejection and won’t hold it against her. Buy her books. You’ll laugh out loud.

That which we manifest is before us

I finished reading The Art of Racing in The Rain by Garth Stein last week and I find myself referencing the book a lot in conversations. It’s a story about love, devotion, determination, and a bond between a man and a dog told from the unique perspective of the dog, Enzo. The race car driving techniques described in the book are lessons that can be applied in life.

The dog’s master, Denny, teaches him that the race car will go where your eyes go. This lesson actually reminded me of when my friend, Kate, was teaching me to snowboard. She told me my body would follow the direction of my gaze, essentially forcing the direction of the snowboard. She would say to me, “Look left! Ok now look right,” when she was trying to get me to go in a certain direction. I think this is also true in life. If you set your sights on something, you are already moving in that direction, towards that goal.

There’s another quote from the book that I love:

That which we manifest is before us; we are the creators of our own destiny. Be it through intention or ignorance, our successes and our failures have been brought on by none other than ourselves.

I think this is so so so so so true. I sometimes would feel helpless and held back by the cards that I’ve been dealt. Mostly I blame money issues for not being able to accomplish my goals. But when it comes down to it, these are just excuses. If I haven’t achieved something, I have no one to blame but myself. Taking this responsibility allows me to take control of my life and make proactive moves.

Eat, Pray, Love

I was watching Oprah today (I’m unemployed, I watch a LOT of Oprah) and Julia Roberts was on the show talking about Eat, Pray, Love, the movie, that’s coming out in August. I’m so excited to see this movie. I remember when I read the book I was in a toxic relationship quite similar to the one the author, Liz Gilbert, was in with David. I remember crying and crying after I reading that she finally walked away from that relationship because I knew I had to do the same with mine. This book really hit a spot with me because it speaks to everyone who’s ever been through a heart break, given up on love, or forgotten who they were.

So on the show, Oprah asks each of the cast members where is their Eat, Pray, and Love place. James Franco who plays David answered California for all 3 because his favorite sandwich shop is there, his family who are his prayers, and his girlfriend. While watching the show I wondered what was my Eat, Pray, Love?

I thought definitely my favorite food in the world is Thai Food and there’s nothing better than street food in Bangkok. There’s too many dishes to pick from but a childhood favorite that I can rarely find in the states is Kao Mun Gai, chicken rice. And I have some strange addiction to eggs in every form. The other day I have half a dozen (in one day!). Gotta get my cholesterol checked for sure.

I do almost all of my praying when I am in Thailand as well. I don’t know many temples here in NYC and I feel out of touch with the religion because I don’t really know many other Buddhists. Because the country is majority Buddhist I feel much more in touch with my religion and have much more access to temples when I am in Thailand.

For some reason, I tend to fall in “love” every time I am back in Thailand. Perhaps it’s the romantic beaches, or the gorgeous foreign men, or the fact that I let my guard down when I’m on holiday but I always leave there with fond memories of a tan, shirtless man sipping mango shakes with me on the beach. Mmm. Also, when I eventually meet someone, Thailand is where I’d like to get married.

So, like James Franco, my Eat, Pray, Love can all be found in the same place. Perhaps I should be booking a ticket back?

What and where is your Eat, Pray, Love?